“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” - Fulton Oursler
“Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop.” - Unknown
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the mastery of it” - Unknown
BOO! (Gee, why so scared? A little jumpy I see.)
Fear is an ugly cancer that plagues our society and our generation. It's more putrid than that pus-filled zit you had on your forehead last month. Fear is so crippling, even a wheelchair proves to be useless. From slight aversions, to straight up phobias, fear surrounds us, envelopes us, suffocates us. And what the heck is everybody so scared of?
By a landlside, the overwhelming majority of people are afraid of failure. Of trying something, and not being successful at it, and thus disappointing ourselves and those around us. Imagine taking a big business risk where there were no guarantees, but the payout BIG if you were successful (such as the owner of the first Burger King trying to go up against heavy-hitting McDonald's). If he could just break through that monopoly, and get consumers to see that you really can "have it your way", then maybe, just maybe, generations to come would have a relevant alternative to "two all-beef patties, special sauce, lettuce, cheese, pickles, onions on a sesame seed bun".
Sometimes people are scared to take a risk because they are afraid of the consequences that may come. Like the worker who doesn't go the extra mile because they are afraid of raising expectations. Or the wife who never experiments with new recipes in case her husband gets angry that his meatloaf and mashed potatoes are nowhere to be found. What about the young child who is afraid to tell the truth because they don't want to be punished? (sidenote: recently my princess was instrumental in me discovering that "the boy" was continuing to get up to no good. I know she must have struggled between tattling on her brother and being truthful to me, not wanting either of us to be upset, but having used her common sense to think things through she realized that physical safety and health take precedence over access to her brother's CD collection.)
How come the only people who do not experience this fear are those swarthy, somewhat greasy looking African men who hit on you (well, they certainly do it to me!). They get in your face, ask you for your name, and within 10 minutes also your hand in marriage. When you give them a fake name, a fake number (to which they insist on dialing right away and aren't even phased when your friend's phone starts ringing from the dancefloor.) Boy I wish I had that confidence when making a presentation in front of a room of 400 people. We don't apply for the jobs we want because we're afraid of being told we're not good enough. We're afraid of going for the guy that ranks a 10, because we think that as an 8, we're only worthy of 8 or less. (another sidenote: I only use the term "we" because I am an inclusive writer.....BUT believe me, I am by no means saying that I am only an 8, I mean c'mon....me and my double D's are at least a 9 and a half).
Everytime I think I've survived the scariest storm, some other devastation affects my life, and the flood waters rise again. Yes, this is a very scary world we live in. From having to worry about ourselves, our families, our friends, and also how strangers can affect our lives, we may as well just sell our furniture, build panic rooms, and live off Snicker's and Kool-Aid the rest of our lives. While I may not necessarily want to eat giant cockroaches on Fear Factor to overcome my panic triggers....I refuse to live a sheltered life that robs me of living, loving, and feeling.
Final thought:I want to give a gold star to the person who first used the term "Boo" as a term of endearment. He probably had a massive phobia of ghosts, and took control back by turning a frightening expression, into a really corny nickname for his girlfriend. (Who probably looked like a ghoul at night with her head wrap and green clay mask on).
(Ok, so this video isn't exactly the most relevant example of conquering fear, because nah sah I ent standin' up in a massive flock of bats, BUT, I really like this scene in Batman.....and fcuk it, I'm the author,I'll post what I want!) Lol.